I was searching the net a while ago and I found this article very intersting. I think I should really stop being jealous. LOL.
"If you are too possessive over a loved one, it's time to take responsibility for changing your attitude and stop being jealous.
All of us sometimes experience feelings of jealousy about a spouse or loved one. We worry whether that person is interested in someone else, or we may want more of his or her attention that is directed elsewhere.
If that is the case, it is up to the jealous person to take control of this unflattering trait and learn to become more trusting. Here are a few tips that can help:
1. Recognize and admit your jealous feelings. It is never easy to confess that we are wrong. But doing so indicates maturity and provides an opportunity for emotional and relational growth. If you have acted out a response to your jealousy, be willing to apologize for arguing, yelling, or bestowing the silent treatment. Your spouse is likely to be grateful and acknowledge your apology by generously offering forgiveness.
2. Become more aware of triggers for your jealousy and learn how to avoid or prevent them. If watching certain television programs or films cause you to become jealous, turn to something else instead. Some people worry that a spouse will prefer the perfect images of the opposite sex that appear on the screen. Even if that isn't true, it is probably a good idea to stay away from things that will cause you to start feeling in a negative way toward your loved one.
3. Reflect on your positive traits. Some jealous feelings grow out of a sense of the person's self-doubt. Instead of focusing on your limitations, remind yourself of the strengths and values that others have noticed in you. This will help you to stop feeling inadequate and worry that another person will catch and hold your loved one's attention in your place. If you feel inept in a certain area, take a class or read up on the subject to become more knowledgeable. There's no reason to feel hopelessly inferior than another person; usually such feelings are inaccurate perceptions or interpretations of one's observations.
4. Build trust for your loved one. Looking back over your life together, appreciate the time you have shared exclusively and realize that your unity should be valued rather than questioned. If your spouse has given you no reason for distrust, don't go looking for one. But if suspicious facts or hints have arisen, give your loved one a chance to explain them. Chances are that things are not what they seem, especially from a negative standpoint.
5. Force yourself to be patient and tolerant. Don't get upset when your spouse has a work-related conversation with a co-worker. Of course, if there are flirtatious overtones or inappropriate plans or statements, you should inquire about such interactions and gracefully help your partner bring them to an end. Otherwise, don't suspect your loved one of infidelity if there is no substantial basis for doing so. Enjoy your time together and don't go looking for trouble.
Jealousy can take many forms, such as becoming jealous of a mate, a parent, or even of a pet when a child envies its parent's affection for a puppy, for example. Be alert to the signs of jealousy and take steps to eliminate it before it damages your relationships."
